The More Sibyl Podcast

점점 좋아지고| The One With Mo! Sibyl – On The Long-Term Effects Of Shame: Episode 35 (2020)

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점점 좋아지고| The One With Mo! Sibyl – On The Long-Term Effects Of Shame: Episode 35 (2020)

Warning: This episode contains messages that might be disturbing to some listeners – especially those who have experienced one form of child sexual abuse or the other.

We are down to the last episode of the SICK-SEEK-RETS series. What a month it has been!

This week’s episode was unplanned; it was born from my "off-the-record" conversation with AnuOluwapo Adelakun, my guest from last week. There was just something about talking to her that helped to finally loosen my tongue to share my story with her, a conversation that I had been unable to have with my mum.

Just like Anu, I was molested at the age of three by a neighbor. Though I didn’t have a thorough understanding of what transpired, an evil seed was planted that day, and I have lived with its fruits since then.

In this episode, I spoke about my abuse for the first time, mapping out my life from childhood to adulthood and the long-term adverse effects the experience left me with. Most importantly, I talked about the steps I have taken and still taking towards healing.

Find out how I broke the news to my mom after 30 years and her reaction to it. There is a word of advice for parents in this episode, give it a listen. As usual, please send feedback.

Free 'n Love,

Mo!

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수치심의 목적| The One With AnuOluwapo Adelakun – On Finding Purpose Through Shame: Episode 34 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One With AnuOluwapo Adelakun – On Finding Purpose Through Shame

WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS MESSAGES THAT MIGHT BE DISTURBING TO SOME LISTENERS – ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED ONE FORM OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE OR THE OTHER.

To be vulnerable is to put one's self at risk, but it can also be a form of strength when applied in certain life situations. It is in this form that our guest today addressed the issues of shame in her life, which, for a long time, were SICK-RETS. Through her shameful experiences, she has found purpose and is on a mission to liberate others to live guilt and shame-free lives.

AnuOluwapo Adelakun is first a servant of God called to obedience and a channel of healing to God's hurting children. She is the convener of the No Shame tribe, a women & girls' rights advocate, journalist, and award-winning documentary filmmaker working on issues affecting marginalized girls and women across Africa.

In this episode, she talks about being sexually abused as a seven-year-old girl, finding the purpose in her pain, her healing process, and embracing God's love during her time of grief. This story will get you evaluating your life's purpose, see yourself through the eyes of God's love, and inspire you to not wallow in your shame but to set yourself and your story free. Please give it a listen!

S/O to Yvonne Edo-Olotu for the introduction

Recommended Song: "Reckless Love"– Cory Asbury (2018)

Love,

Mo!

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사기 결혼| The One with Raquel (Mystery guest) – The Red Flags Often Ignored: Episode 33 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The subject of marriage is indeed delicate and must be stepped into cautiously. While it may be difficult to decipher a person's true intentions, there are red flags that must never be ignored. Today we bring you yet another divorce story from a guest who has chosen to be anonymous, so she will be called Raquel. She fell victim to a con man who pretended to love her but was only after getting a US green card. The marriage that began as a rushed and hushed process also ended in the same manner, a few short months later. In this episode, Raquel owned her story and took responsibility for her actions. She walked us through the process from marriage to divorce, how she is dealing with the mental and emotional strain, and finally coming to terms with the unfolded events. Raquel tells us why she remained married as long as she did, the secrecy and hastiness of the entire situation, the warning signals she ignored, her final wake up call, and how she is finally placing her happiness ahead. Raquel ends this episode with a powerful note of encouragement that is relevant to everyone. You should listen to it!!! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mosibyl/support

행복하게 이혼했다| The One with Olayinka Favour-Alaka – On Thriving Well After a Divorce: Episode 32 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Olayinka Favour-Alaka – On Thriving Well After a Divorce: Episode 32 (2020)

Nobody gets married with the intention of disrupting their ‘happily ever after.” Still, a series of events occur, leading to the eventual breakdown of the relationship between two people who once cared about each other.

Kicking off this month’s specially curated episodes is the one with Olayinka Favour-Alaka, a woman I have come to love and admire for her strength and authenticity. She is a facility manager at Alterra Capital, an event planner, a teen minister, and a certified sex therapist.

This is the first time she has publicly opened up about her divorce, and I salute her courage in being vulnerable. In this episode, Olayinka laid bare the events that led up to the disintegration of her marriage - including having multiple miscarriages, her attempts to fix things, the healing process thereafter, and how she is thriving again as a single woman.

This episode is rich in lessons for single, married, and divorced people.

You can send in any questions concerning the conversation, and they will be addressed during the upcoming Shame Conference.

You can find all about Yinka and her sex therapy work on IG @erotaslounge

Best,

Mo!

Resources

• Our sex workshop: https://motolani-s-school.thinkific.com/courses/Sexworkshop
  
• Book: Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage by Kenneth E. Hagin
  

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한류| The One with Mojung Sylvia Kim – On Hallyu - South Korea's Pop Culture Wave: Episode 31 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Mojung Sylvia Kim – On Hallyu - South Korea’s Pop Culture Wave

I am very excited about this episode because it centers on my adopted country, South Korea. For over ten years, I have indulged in this one and only guilty pleasure - Korean Dramas, aka K-Dramas. Asides the several reasons I love them, watching K-Dramas have played a great role in elevating my understanding of the Korean language.

To do justice to this subject, I brought my Korean sister and teacher, Mojung Kim. Mojung is a Korean living in America and undergoing her Master's in Early Childhood Education at the University of Central Oklahoma.

In this episode, we trace it right to the beginning, examining Korea's history and the events that lead to the Korean wave, also known as "Hallyu “ (a Chinese term). We examined the concepts of Han and Jeong, the writing style of K-Dramas, the unique romantic display, the dark sides of the Korean culture, amongst others.

If you are new to watching K-Dramas, this episode is a must-listen as we provided recommendations of our favorite shows and where to get them. And if you are wondering how Korea got to be so cool, then go ahead and listen as well.

For me, I would love to see the future collaborations between Nigeria's Nollywood and Korean entertainment.

한국 만세,

Mo!

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자유의 전사| The One with Jessica Fortunes – On The EndSARS Protests in Nigeria: Episode 30 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Jessica Fortunes – On The EndSARS Protests in Nigeria

If you have access to the internet, then by now, you must have come across the hashtag, #EndSARS. The Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) is a unit of the Nigerian Police Force that has, for many years, terrorized rather than protect Nigerian citizens, with the young people being their primary targets.

For two weeks, young Nigerians have been protesting locally and internationally, calling for the disbandment of SARS and justice for their victims. Joining me on this episode is Jessica Fortunes, the host of @twentysomethingsrants podcast, a young Nigerian, and one of the protesters. We talked about the youth's power using their voices with social media as their tool, the key role women have played in the protests, the solidarity of the young people, and the adjustments the older generation needs to make.

This episode is a must-listen, especially for those who haven't had a personal experience with SARS. I have also included personal encounter stories of young Nigerians in their twenties who have been harassed by these rogue officers. If you can't physically be part of the protest, you can support by lending your voice, creating awareness on your platforms, make welfare package donations, or send monetary contributions to the @feministco.

You can find Jessica on IG, Twitter, and Pinterest as @JessicaFortunes or via https://www.jessicafortunes.com/

It's time to Sọrọ Sòkè (Speak up!) and yeah, #ENDSARS

Recommended Song: “Great Nation”– Timi Dakolo (2011)

Resources

• History of SARS - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special_Anti-Robbery_Squad
  
• Amnesty International’s Report on police brutality in Nigeria - https://www.amnesty.org/en/documents/afr44/9505/2020/en/
  
• To donate to the movement through the Feminist Coalition - https://t.co/FvsEKetUL9?amp=1
  

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라고스에서의 생활| The One with Iyanu Adedipe – On Life In Lagos: Episode 29 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Iyanu Adedipe – On Life In Lagos

The reviews from last Thursday’s episode with Iyanu have been amazeballs, so I decided to give you guys a bonus. It’s an excerpt from my conversation with Iyanu focusing on Lagos life and her “serial killer ways” of going to the movies alone.

In this episode, we talked about the changes that have occurred in Lagos since the last time I was there and about the excessive carbohydrate consumption (especially rice) in Nigeria.

Well, Iyanu was bent on defending her choice of going to the movies alone, and she even took a swipe at me for meditating on the throne of inspiration (aka the toilet seat). So I leave you guys to judge (please don’t vote in her favor), which of these is creepy: going to the movies alone as a form of self-care or spending an hour in the toilet meditating to receive fresh ideas?

I await your verdict. Oh, and enjoy this super-duper short segment; I am off to meditate!

PS: Follow Iyanu’s beautifully crafted drinks on IG @ 106bartales

PPS: You can read more about my hotel staycation here

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결혼에 관하여| The One with Iyanu Adedipe – On What No One Tells You About Marriage: Episode 28 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Iyanu Adedipe – On What No One Tells You About Marriage

When two people with different stories, ideas, backgrounds, and expectations fall in love, getting married seems like the next step to take. But beyond just loving each other, their ability to manage their differences is a crucial factor that will keep them together.

In this episode, I have my sister-in-law, Iyanu Adedipe, on the show to talk about our marriages to twin brothers. Iyanu is married to my husband’s twin, Kehinde. She is a mixologist, a lover of rice and fish sauce, and the only one I know who goes to the movies alone. Really, who does that? #Serialkillerswannabe.

We critically examined the role of communication in maintaining a happy marriage, the importance of continuously teaching one another, unfulfilled expectations, and dealbreakers in marriage—all these with shared with some laughter too.

If you are curious to find out the back story between Taiwo and me, then this is the episode you’ll get the full gist. The good thing for you is that our husbands don’t listen to this podcast anyway, so go on ahead and download and enjoy the whole gossip and a half.

Recommended Song: “Marriage (결혼)”– MoonMoon (2017)

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잉카의 이야기| The One with Olayinka Jolaosho: On Career, Grief, and Addiction: Episode 27 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Olayinka Jolaosho - On Career, Grief, and Addiction

Meet Olayinka Jolaosho (yeah two episodes in a row with Yinkas – guess they truly yímiká haha) - my WhatsApp muse and the bane of my meme existence. She's also a strong anti-fan even though she believes she's my #4 fan. It's my utmost pleasure to share this extraordinary treasure to my listeners. It's one of the many ways I keep making her famous (things I do for you, boo!)

Indeed, there are conventional ways of doing things, but you find people like Yinka who deviate from traditions now and then. Yinka is a pharmacist with 12 years of progressive practical experience working in the development and health sector in several areas, including pharmaceutical research, supply chain management, program management, sales and marketing, and much more.

As a pharmacist in Nigeria, the career options are limited to specific areas, but Yinka has successfully carved out a niche for herself in the healthcare industry.

In this episode, she shares with us details of her 12-year career journey, attitude to work, and finding her unique passion in pharmacy. She also shared the pain of losing her sister to sickle cell anemia and her dad shortly after, as well as her strange but acceptable addiction.

Listen to this episode to find out how Yinka evolved from making purple candles as a child to becoming a "purple cow" in her field of expertise.

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성 치료사| The One with Olayinka Favour-Alaka - On Divine Calling and Becoming a Sex Coach: Episode 26 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Olayinka Favour-Alaka - On Divine Calling and Becoming a Sex Coach

What do you do when your purpose conflicts with your current situation? Do you let go of your dream, or do you launch ahead despite the challenge? Today's story features Olayinka Favour-Alaka, a woman who didn't allow societal expectations to get the better of her. Still, she is fearlessly living her best life as she answers her divine calling. She also happens to be our sex therapist!

After dancing to the tunes of parental demands that yielded no fruits, Yinka stood up for herself and went after her desires. As a teenager in boarding school, she was the victim of bullies who managed to suppress her lively spirit, leaving her with self-esteem issues.

Being able to identify with their struggles, Yinka is now a passionate advocate for teenagers, mentoring them in the Christian faith and through life issues. She is also a certified sex therapist, an event planner, and a facility manager at Alterra Capital.

In this episode, she shares the background story for her various expressions, including describing herself as happily divorced, while testifying of God's grace upon her life.

This episode is a must-listen, especially if there is a conflict between your calling and your life's experiences.

Special thanks to Patricia O from Lagos, Nigeria for the introduction.

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