The More Sibyl Podcast

이차성 불임| The One with Funmi Okubanjo - Navigating the Trials and Triumphs of Secondary Infertility: Episode 33 (2023)

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Disclaimer: We will discuss depression-related topics in this episode. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, please seek professional help immediately. You're not alone, and support is available via our ongoing fertility project. We discuss the mental, physical, and emotional stress concerning miscarriages, infertility treatments, and negative social and environmental factors that contribute to the mental stress that accompanies going through infertility. 

 

Continuing our fertility series, I'm sharing my 12-year fertility journey and those of remarkable women around me. If you or someone you know is struggling with fertility and needs assistance, reach out to us at talktomo@mosibyl.com. Every contribution, big or small, makes a difference.

In this episode, we dive into secondary fertility with Mrs. Funmi Okubanjo, an old friend from high school and a board member of our ongoing project. Mrs. Okubanjo shares her journey, the challenges, and the stigma she faced. We also discuss the importance of educating children about their reproductive systems.

As we get into the episode's heart, we explore Mrs. Okubanjo's fertility journey, her trials, and the emotional toll. I share my own feelings of being stuck on this journey while helping others move forward.

We wrap up by outlining the goals of our fertility project. We aim to create a supportive community where women can find joy and regain themselves while navigating fertility challenges. This project is an ongoing effort, offering various forms of support. Men with fertility issues are also welcome to share their stories. For more information on support or how to contribute, email us at talktomo@mosibyl.com. 

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• Read the Blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/navigating-the-trials-and-triumphs-of-secondary-infertility-cc0cb87b6f02 
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• Join/Contribute to TMS Fertility Project: https://gofund.me/5ee68d96 

벨트 아래| Below the Belt with Temitope Abiona - A Journey Through Endometriosis and Infertility: Episode 32 (2023)

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My Dearest Mosiblings,

I hope this message finds you all in good health. I am grateful for your continued support during our recent deep and introspective episodes. Today, I must share that we are embarking on another sensitive journey. In recent shows, including "Dark Nights with Doc Ayomide," we've explored various emotionally charged topics. In our most recent episode, my virtual assistant and I delved into my 12-year struggle with infertility, marking the launch of our ongoing Fertility Project. This project provides mental, emotional, and financial support to women and couples facing infertility challenges.

This week, we are honored to have a special guest, Mrs. Temitope Abiona, a remarkable individual who wears many hats. By day, she's a business consultant for various companies, a certified functional salesforce professional, a certified project manager, and an entrepreneur. She's not only dedicated to her professional pursuits but also to caring for others. Mrs. Abiona has a deep passion for mental well-being and spreading joy. She is happily married and resides in Minnesota, serving as a board member of our Fertility Project. Like me, she has faced her own challenges on her journey to conceive, and she is here to share her story.

Mrs. Abiona takes us on a poignant journey through her childhood and education during our episode. She recalls her initial encounter with excruciating pain during her menstrual periods at her mother's workplace, where she discovered significant blood clots. Over time, the pain during her monthly cycles became a constant companion, leading her to rely on potent painkillers, including opioids, for relief. Although these painkillers provided temporary respite, the pain resurfaced a year before her marriage. Between 2015 and 2019, her frequent visits to the emergency room became a distressing routine, and she underwent several surgeries during that period. Mrs. Abiona candidly shares the profound impact her painful menstrual periods have had on her life, drawing from personal experiences.

We also talk about our experiences with surgeries and the unique challenges of dealing with medical practitioners who may not fully understand or appreciate our cultural backgrounds. A pivotal moment came during a visit to the emergency room when Mrs. Abiona was diagnosed with endometriosis. She shows how this diagnosis has made it exceptionally challenging for her to conceive, resulting in failed IVF attempts and various other obstacles.

In conclusion, Mrs. Abiona addresses our questions about her decision to become a board member of the show. She offers spiritual guidance and encouragement to women and couples facing fertility challenges, emphasizing the importance of not offering unsolicited advice to those dealing with these issues.

I want to remind everyone that no contribution is too small for our cause. If you or someone you know needs support, please do not hesitate to contact us via email at talktomo@mosibyl.com.

Until our next episode, thank you for your unwavering support.

 

Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/infertility-trials-tears-and-triumphs-218d4cef574d 

Yours truly,

Mo!

 

The One with Mo! - On Infertility - Trials, Tears, and Triumphs: Episode 31 (2023)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 불임의 눈물과 승리|The One with Mo! - On Infertility - Trials, Tears, and Triumphs: Episode 31 (2023)

Dear Mosiblings,

Today, our show takes a unique turn as my virtual assistant, Hauwa, takes on the role of the interviewer. This episode delves into my personal infertility journey spanning over 12 years and the heartfelt project I've recently initiated, The More Sibyl Fertility Project (TMS).

Why, you may wonder? This project holds a profound significance for me as it mirrors my journey through over a decade of infertility, encompassing pregnancy losses, IVF treatments, fleeting hopes, bouts of depression, multiple laparoscopy surgeries, hormonal struggles, and the sense of losing oneself along the way. The objectives of TMS are multifaceted, aiming to shed light on the universal experience of infertility among women, providing financial assistance and mental and emotional support, and building a supportive community. I emphasize the importance of being part of a community of "women in waiting" and the hope it can offer by listening to the stories and testimonies of others.

 

What better way to introduce this project than through my own story? In this intense episode, I delve deep into the details of my journey, holding nothing back. Hauwa guides me in discussing events and experiences that have led me to embark on this fertility project.

I narrate the trajectory of my fertility journey, including the early years of my marriage and the struggles I faced with my husband, TDawg. We also explore my dream of adoption, its temporary loss, and its eventual restoration by my ever-supportive husband. We engage in a meaningful conversation about the potential pressures a Nigerian wife faces, including family dynamics. I clarify that I encountered minimal pressure from my in-laws, with the majority originating from my mother, given my status as the first child and the only married one for an extended period. Hauwa and I touch upon the dynamics of parenthood, offering insights into how parents can support their children and couples facing fertility challenges. Discussing the negative impacts of fertility challenges, I express profound gratitude to my husband, TDawg, for his unwavering encouragement, reassurance, and steadfast support over the years.

As we conclude the episode, I highlight the avenues through which women and couples can seek healing and help, such as therapy and community support. I encourage people to support couples struggling to conceive by being good listeners, making supportive calls, respecting their privacy and choices, and refraining from offering unsolicited advice. We hope you found this episode as insightful and heartfelt as we did, and I urge you to contribute to the cause. Remember, no amount is too small.

Until next time, I remain your dearest Mo!

혼자 살지 마세요|The One with Doc Ayomide - The Dark Nights of the Soul: Episode 30 (2023)

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Disclaimer: We will discuss suicide-related topics in this episode. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, please seek professional help immediately. You're not alone, and support is available. This podcast provides information and support but is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Your well-being matters and help is accessible.

This week's episode features my SENIOR colleague, close friend, psychiatrist, and former co-host of The More Sibyl Podcast, Doc Ayomide. Our discussion delves into the sensitive and complex subject of "Dark Nights of the Soul," which is the primary focus of our episode.

We explore the concept of "Dark Nights of the Soul" from spiritual and non-spiritual perspectives. This term signifies a profound spiritual and psychological experience that individuals go through, often to draw them closer to God, but not exclusively so. We dive deep into the spiritual aspect of these dark moments while addressing their relationship to depression in a non-spiritual context.

Additionally, we examine the core existential assumptions, deeply held beliefs about life that cannot always be scientifically proven. For example, the belief in the equality of all humans is one such assumption. We also differentiate between active suicidality, which involves active planning for suicide, and passive suicidality, which encompasses the desire or thoughts of ending one's life without taking immediate action.

Towards the conclusion of our conversation, Doc Ayomide and I provide insights into how people can support their family or friends going through dark moments or nearing them. We discuss the delicate balance between waiting out these moments and the possibility of sinking into depression, the role of medications, and the tough decisions about what to let go of and what to hold on to. We stress the importance of hope and encourage those experiencing dark moments to remain hopeful. Doc Ayomide also highlights the significance of observance of seemingly happy individuals, as they might be concealing a history of pain or sadness.

In summary, our episode covers the multifaceted aspects of "Dark Nights of the Soul" and offers guidance on supporting and maintaining hope during challenging times.

 

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Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/the-dark-night-of-the-soul-d5925771ea73 

Resources: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/dark-night-of-soul

아프리카 이야기 살펴보기|The One with Süwi and Malimba - Exploring Our African Stories: Episode 29 (2023)

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Dear Mosiblings,

Before we jump into today's episode, I've got some exciting news to share. We've been honored with the  Diasporan Podcast of The Year award from the Association of African Podcasters and Voice Artists (APVA). None of this would have been possible without your incredible support; I'm sincerely grateful.

In today's show, I'm thrilled to introduce our special guests, Mr. Süwi and Mr. Malimba , co-hosts of the Zambian podcast "The Village ZM." Their friendship, born from their mothers' high school connections, has led to this fantastic podcast. 

During our chat, we reminisce about cherished childhood memories and share amusing stories about their interactions with Nigerians, highlighting our renowned hospitality. We also delve into changing narratives, stereotypes about our countries, brain drain issues, the "Zambian dream," and how our African identity shapes our global perspectives.

As we wrap up the episode, Mr. Malimba threw three intriguing questions my way:

1. What advice would I give my younger self?
2. What was I known for in primary school?
3. What's my favorite aspect of podcasting?

To discover my answers, be sure to listen to the full episode. Until next time, I remain your dearest Mo!

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Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/the-village-chronicles-with-the-zambians-533755a0eb8e 

Resources: https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/06/27/the-challenges-of-male-friendships/ 

 

기업가적인 치과|The One with Dr. Damilola Balogun - The Entrepreneurial Dentist: Episode 28 (2023)

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Joining us this week is the remarkable Dr. Damilola Balogun, a true multi-talent and someone we affectionately call "multi-talented" for good reason. She isn't just a dentist and dental surgeon; she's also a partner in her dental practice, an accomplished event planner, and a savvy entrepreneur. Fun fact: She planned my wedding 11 years ago, so I'm particularly excited to have her on the show!

During our conversation, Dr. Damilola takes us on a captivating journey through her career path. She opens up about her decision to pursue dentistry, even though nobody in her family had ventured into "a science-related course" before. She candidly shares her challenges and how her unwavering passion for dentistry took shape. She also recounts her journey from being a partner at her previous workplace to her bold entry into the event-planning industry.

We then explore the universal childhood fear of visiting the dentist and receive valuable tips on maintaining optimal oral health from Dr. Damilola herself. Our discussion meanders through her remarkable ability to balance the roles of a mother, dentist, event planner, and entrepreneur. We gain insight into the evolution of her marriage and career.

As our conversation unfolds, Dr. Damilola regales us with captivating event-planning anecdotes. We wrap up our discussion by peeking into the future of her dental practice and event planning ventures. She reflects on her values as a mother and offers valuable advice on instilling those values in her children. Dr. Damilola leaves us with encouragement and affirmation long after the show concludes.

 

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Read blog here:https://mosibyl.medium.com/the-entrepreneurial-dentist-8a4631cc8d70

차별 철폐 조치|The One with Olabimpe Shode - Breaking Down Affirmative Action: The Pros, Cons, and Implications for Schools and The Workplace: Episode 27 (2023)

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In this episode, we explore the recent overturning of the "affirmative action decision" by the U.S. Supreme Court and its implications for racial discrimination within educational institutions. Before delving into these discussions, we provide a concise overview of the term's meaning and historical context.

Drawing from our personal experiences, we candidly discuss workplace racial discrimination, examining its implications and disparities in predominantly white and predominantly black educational institutions. Olabimpe shares insights from her experiences at two community colleges—mainly white and mostly black.

In the final segment, we shed light on how the "affirmative action decision" can benefit individuals and the systemic framework. We offer encouragement, emphasizing prioritizing well-being, even if it means pursuing healthier opportunities elsewhere.

Tune in for this enlightening conversation on racial discrimination, affirmative action, and resilience in adversity.

Resources:

• Read the blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/breaking-down-affirmative-action-8aa4b8295337 

• Support The More Sibyl Podcast: https://ko-fi.com/mosibyl 

 

신앙과 가족과 피클볼| Faith, Family, and Pickleball - Lessons from Evonne Vanessa Todd: Episode 26 (2023)

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This week's episode features our special guest, Mrs. Evonne Vanessa Todd. She's a business owner, certified life coach, and a co-founder of a successful marriage ministry. With 32 years of marital experience and two adult children, she shares her invaluable insights.

In this episode, we dive deep into marriage and life topics. First, we discuss maintaining a healthy marriage by embracing individuality, identifying personal challenges, and placing faith at the core. We also share personal success stories from our marriages, emphasize the importance of therapy during marital challenges, and offer advice to a friend facing difficulties.

Wrapping up, we learn about Mrs. Todd's love for extracurricular activities, like pickleball, and her inspirational message to embrace life while planning for the future. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, touching on marriage and life. Stay tuned for Mrs. Todd's return in an upcoming marriage series!

 

Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/faith-family-and-pickleball-ceb1f2bc1781

디아스포란 아프리카인 아빠들| The One with African Dads - Discussions Among Diasporans Series: Episode 25 (2023)

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This week, we embarked on a profound journey into the realm of fatherhood, specifically exploring the life experiences of immigrant fathers hailing from traditional African backgrounds. This episode was part of a collaborative panel, cohosted by our podcast and esteemed podcasters: Kelechi Ibe-Lamberts (@blacktransnational_), Nancy Mulemwa Siisii (@concrete_pastures), Ms. Kemi Seriki (@pansa.pansaforum).

Our discussion traversed the entire spectrum of immigrant fatherhood and fatherhood in general. Guiding us through this enriching conversation is Ms. Kemi Seriki, emphasizing the importance of engaging in more frequent dialogues about fatherhood. Our distinguished panel features five remarkable fathers. We aimed to provide you, our cherished audience, an authentic firsthand glimpse into the multifaceted world of fatherhood.

Our panelists include the venerable Mr. Babatunde Fapohunda, an engineer, father of two grown adults, and grandfather. We are also joined by Mr. Stephen Batti, the host of the Sambaza Podcast, who migrated to the U.S. twenty-one years ago. Completing our dynamic ensemble are Mr. Kenny Popoola (a beloved patron of the podcast), Dr. Taiwo Adedipe (our Tdawg), and Mr. Sammy Disu.

As we delve into the heart of the show, Ms. Seriki gracefully poses thought-provoking queries to our panelists. She urges them to share cherished memories from their childhoods back home, offering us a glimpse into their formative years. This prompts us to imagine what those moments meant to them. Additionally, she encourages the panelists to open up about their perceptions of fatherhood, revisit cherished childhood memories, identify the most approachable figure in their households, and dissect systemic challenges African immigrants face— such as language barriers and untransferable job skills.

Bringing our live show close, I take the reins for a Q&A session. We dive into the intricate dynamics of role transformation after migration, delve into the vulnerability experienced by men and fathers at large, and explore the tapestry of family life and fatherhood in the diaspora. The concept of adoption in Africa also finds its place in our conversation, followed by a discussion about the importance of allowing our children to choose their career paths while offering them guidance. Dive in for an episode filled with wisdom, insight, and heartfelt sharing that sheds light on the unique journey of immigrant fathers navigating the currents of fatherhood across the world.

Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/the-one-with-african-dads-in-the-diaspora-1cc0ee47c957 

전 세계의 뉴스| The Global Scoop: Mo! & Olabimpe’s Take on Current Economic, Political, and Entertainment News: Episode 24 (2023)

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Welcome to another captivating episode of the More Sibyl Podcast, where Olabimpe and I invite you on a remarkable journey. Together, we explore the latest global headlines, reminisce about cherished moments from past episodes, and immerse ourselves in our childhood memories from Nigeria's tenement buildings. Our conversation becomes enjoyable as we discuss the film "Sistà" and touch on recent worldwide political, economic, and entertainment news. 

Here are some key highlights: We share individual stories about their experiences with housing insecurities during their formative years. We also delve into topics like the tragic passing of Dr. Vwaere from Nigeria, political matters concerning Niger and Nigeria, and fertility and military issues in South Korea and America. Additionally, we delve into a celebrity scandal involving the popular American singer and rapper Lizzo, reflecting on lessons we can learn about fame and its impact.

Finally, we offer words of encouragement regarding body positivity and open up about our shared affection for dogs with our audience. Lastly, we invite you to explore Olabimpe's children's clothing and thrift brand Beam's Kiddies – your support means the world to us.

 

Read blog here: https://mosibyl.medium.com/the-global-scoop-with-olabimpe-b54e377b88e4